• Aging Well Denver

Are You Fulfilled or Just Busy?

Updated: Oct 10, 2018

By Diane Hanfling Reed

We hear so much these days about how busy everyone is. “I am so busy, today I have to get to the gym before my doctor appointment, drop the kids at school, meet Paul for lunch and get the research done for a report before getting to the store so we can eat! THEN…” “You think that is busy, let me tell you what I need to do, after I take the red eye home and land

tomorrow at 6am….”

Often being busy is touted as a badge of honor. Somehow being busy has come to mean how important someone is. Do you want to feel busy all the time?

Or would you like to be fulfilled? Have a sense of peacefulness and choosing what is possible within the same 24 hours everyone has.

How do you live your life? Are you busy? Telltale signs your life is busy: You feel constantly frenetic and frantic. You find yourself double booking and/or missing appointments and meetings. You run late, feel anxious and have the persistent feeling of never getting ahead with an unending todo list and always end the day wondering what you missed.

Feeling fulfilled – You move through your day with intention, with a sense of peace and accomplishment. You take the time to appreciate where you are and what you have accomplished. You take time to connect with people at each opportunity rather than rushing in and out.

Here are some tips to help you move toward fulfillment –

1. When we take (even a little bit of) time for ourselves each day to think, we become more efficient. Take 2 minutes to think about what you want today and how you want to feel at the end of your day. Envision it.

2. Choose 4 - 5 things that you want to do most today and assign the amount of time you think you will need (then double it.)

3. Plan your time - write it down, use a planner or sticky notes, whatever works best for you.

4. Be present.

5. Be patient.

6. Be grateful for the day.

Diane Hanfling Reed is a Denver-based life coach specializing in getting clients “unstuck” and balancing relationships. To work with Diane or learn more about her services, call (303) 809-5473 or send an email to